For Love

Everything in our lives is a priceless gift until we devalue it by assigning value to it. It took a turkey to teach me this and I will be forever grateful. I walked into a store in my town for a quick bite and it turns out they were selling oven ready organic turkeys. What luck! I ordered a 16 pounder. Having this errand taken care of was a relief. Everything was great until I went to pay. The cashier rang me up and informed me that my turkey would be $130. What?? I could fee

Forgiveness is a no-brainer, not because its easy but because the brain can’t forgive. If we believe that someone has wronged us, the brain will not allow us to truly forgive them. It’s illogical and simply does not compute. Like a dog with a bone the brain holds on to all the pain, blame, anger, shame and guilt so that we do not get caught off guard again. To the brain forgiveness is a weakness and that is in opposition to its safety scanning program. Always vigilant for wha

The purpose of communication is not to resolve conflict but to rise beyond it. Conflict manifests in many forms but in truth it is all the same thing. From all out war to a tiff with our spouse the root cause of conflict never changes. It is not disagreement but communication failure. Getting lost in the content of our conflicts obscures the cause which inevitably leads to further divide. We have gotten to the point where we think disagreement is conflict. Not so. Most of us

Your mind is not your friend unless you actively train it to be one. Reprogram or Bust: Whether we are aware of it or not we spend our life in a state of cognitive deficit. I am not talking about brain damage or learning challenges. Rather, if our brain is a computer this cognitive deficit download is a virus. The virus works likes this - under the noble guise of setting goals, it causes us to put joy on the back burner while we instead focus on the deficits of what remains t

We are exhausted only by our thoughts…. Why? Because our thought creates the problem then seeks a solution to the problem it created. And there is no end to the problems or solutions until we get a handle on thought. How to Weed Your Mind: Thought is not what you think it is. As I have been talking to my college age kids, it is becoming clear that kids in their late teens are suffering - not from what we think or they think they are suffering from - but from runaway thoughts.